Tips to a Great Marriage
Communicate! Communication is huge in any relationship, and especially marriage. If you don’t talk about how you feel, what you want, or what’s wrong, you’re not going to make it very far. At times I really struggle with communicating. I usually feel dumb for saying how I feel or what’s wrong. Sometimes, I can muster the courage to blurt it all out, and if I can’t, I write it down and give it to my husband to read. Or even send an e-mail. In the end, what you feel and think has to be shared, it has to be out in the open.
Trustworthy! You have to be honest and trustworthy in a relationship. I very strongly believe you CANNOT have a relationship if you do not trust your husband. Likewise, if your husband can’t trust you. That means you have to be honest when you talk to your husband. Don’t lie, or lie by omission. Keep your actions appropriate.
No Expectations! Don’t expect him to read your mind, bring you flowers, or buy you a for no reason gift. If he doesn’t you’ll be hurt and angry. If he does, then it will be a nice surprise! Also, don’t expect him to act like your friends or family members husband. Everyone is different, and works in a different way.
Focus On Your Husband! This is hard, because us humans are selfish by nature. We have a tendency to think of ourselves first and others last. It is so important though, and such a beautiful thing when you think of your husband before yourself, and he thinks of you before himself.
Make Him Feel Loved! I mentioned it in a blog post before, but I found a site that gives a list of 100 ways to love your husband (there is also one with 100 ways to love your wife). What you do is you print off the list and give it to your husband, and have him mark which things on the list make him feel loved. You’ll probably be surprised.
Laugh! Laughing is very important in my husband and I’s relationship. Things go so wrong sometimes, or things are just so difficult. You just have to laugh sometimes! In addition to that, it’s also extremely important to watch funny shows, or joke together. Laughing and being happy with your spouse is an awesome thing.
Do Something! Our budget is tight, so we struggle to go out. Not to mention my husband works from 3 PM-Midnight. Most places are closed when my husband gets home. However, where there is a will there is a way! You don’t have to go out to dinner. Or even spend money to do something together. Museums, parks, camping, window shopping, taking a drive, sitting outside watching nature, fishing, at home dates (that include great food and dressing nice) are just a few things you can do. You can even do a google search and it’ll give you great date ideas that can be done at home, or at a very low cost. Another great idea is playing video games together or board games.
These are just a few tips I have for making a great marriage. A marriage isn’t always happy, it isn’t always easy, but it’s almost always worth all the work you put into it. What are your tips for having a great marriage!?